The Masturbation Stigma

           Masturbation. It’s a topic we don’t often talk about and when we do, it’s probably in the context of a joke. I’m sure the vast majority of us don’t discuss it at the dinner table or while hanging with family and friends. It’s probably safe to say that most people have or do masturbate. But why does society still frown upon the act? Is partnered masturbation a more accepted practice because you are engaged with another person?
           In my search on the history of stigmas with masturbation, I came across an interesting paper published for Planned Parenthood that helps answer some of the hard questions regarding the subject. The white paper titled, Masturbation-From Stigma to Sexual Health, has a wealth of information on the history of social and cultural views on masturbation. What enthralled me the most were the obscene devices and remedies developed during the 19^th and 20^th centuries to curb masturbation in children. From today’s standards, items such genital cages and sutures or cauterization to the genitals to curb urges to masturbating seems extremely brutal. Masturbation was seen as pervasive and shameful and physicians created remedies for parents to discourage masturbation in their children.

            It wasn’t until later in the 20th century that sexual behavior studies done by Alfred Kinsey, helped try and create a less stigmatized view of masturbation. According to the white paper published by Planned Parenthood, many adults who masturbate, half feel a sense of shame or guilt about it. The paper not only gives us a glimpse into the social evolution of ideas on masturbation, but it gives those who feel shame the assurance that its healthy and normal to participate in such a behavior. Why is it so difficult for people to openly discuss the topic, especially when children are involved?

            Another great discussion I came upon was a video that has sex educator Jamye Waxman discussing the importance and benefits of masturbation. She reiterates that doing the act doesn’t have to be shameful; it doesn’t have to have a stigma attached to it. If we are faced with confronting children about it, we can approach the topic in way that doesn’t have to leave a person feeling shamed or guilty. What are your thoughts? Do you agree with Waxman and her take-charge approach towards masturbation and sexuality? It would be interesting to hear how others view the subject. 

References:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/files/5513/9611/7867/masturbation_11-02.pdf

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QVTsahsCg7c